I have a couple of friends going through relationship problems. It's complicated. Sometimes it works and it's lovely and sometimes it doesn't. It doesn't have to be anyone's fault. My friend Margaret posted a video clip of Tyler Perry's character Mabel "Madea" Simmons that was really quite brilliant. I wish I knew which performance it came from so I could share it with you. A big take away: Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. It's true. You learn something from them and then there's a moving on. I've been simply devastated by the loss of friends and loves along the way. And, it doesn't have to be that way. You really do have to find your own solid ground and know that you will be fine if certain people are just "seasonal". Even though, in some cases, it took me years and years to let go of the pain and resentment, I've found that profound healing, changes, growth and new and better things come when you finally do release them. Plus, you just never know how and when people might show up later in your life. The more graceful you can be about letting go, the more space you leave for them to return if it's right. In the past couple of years, I've connected with old friends I never thought I'd see again. Even an old boyfriend! And, it was very natural with no wishing for what once was. In fact, remembering how angry I was at letting go seemed almost comical considering where we both ended up. It was just a joy to see how we had changed and the choices we made that truly were right for us no matter how it looked at the time of our parting. That's a beautiful thing and you're not going to know how it's going to turn out. Try to remember that not knowing is part of how amazing it is when something better and more suited to you comes along.
And, on that note, happy 22nd anniversary to my love!
UPDATE!!! Here is the link to the video: http://vimeo.com/18145425It's all pretty hilarious but the segment I'm referring to starts at 4:40.
How Do You Ever
This is it
It’s over before it started
Sinking feeling
Not for the faint of heart
It’s not what you think
That’s only a tiny part
It’s everything
You are and aren’t
It’s gone too fast
Oh, but it never lasts
Just give all you have
And if it all comes back
It’s yours to hold
But, if you never let it go
Then, how do you ever
How do you ever know
You don’t
This is the hard part
This is where you’ll want to
Stop believing
Everything you’re thinking
Chances you take
History in the making
for the one
But not the one
It’s gone too fast
Oh, but it never lasts
Just give all you have
And if it all comes back
It’s yours to hold
But, if you never let it go
Then, how do you ever
How do you ever know
You don’t need
to know everything
Where we’re going
You don’t even
have to know the path
You can’t take it back
But, since you asked
How do you ever
How do you ever know
How do you ever know
You don’t
This is the one
This is the way it happens
Now we’ve begun
Someone above is laughing
©LauraMarieMusic 2014
